A New Relationship? Yes but it’s Early Days !!

Andy Kneeling down in HInchingbrooke park taking photos

Saturday 1386  – 4.01.2014

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I am tying this post in ( very loosely) with the Weekly Photo Challenge – Beginning  – Why?

Just because I feel like it 🙂

So here we are in another New Year and it seems amazing to me that it is so long since 2000 !

This New Year is a little different for me because it has been some years since I had a man in my life but this year I do and there is potential for 2014 to be a great year for us both.  It has certainly begun well ( about 10 weeks now! ) and we have covered a lot of ground in a short space of time.

_1535We share many of the same interests ( the photos show a major one ! ) but what is particularly exciting about this is that we have started from a point of complete honesty, with each other, and this coupled with a willingness to communicate in a very real, accepting, compassionate way is what bodes well for the future. 

When you get to my time of life ( nearly 60..gulp! ) and have 2 major relationships behind you, neither of which was noted for its good communication, then you don’t want to enter into a 3rd that follows the same pattern. Andy and I have both made mistakes in previous relationships and we are keen not to repeat these in ours.

This requires reflection on why communication was not good, recognising the patterns that reinforced poor communication and working towards a better way of being with another person in a genuine, open and adult way. It’s not easy and does require work but boy is it worth it !

I am thankful that Andy and I are doing this work together. He is undoubtedly helping me to be the best person I can be and I hope I am doing the same for him.

This all sounds terribly serious doesn’t it? but shouldn’t building a great relationship with someone be a serious business if you want it to succeed?  I think it should because if issues that arise  (and they always do it’s what happens when 2 ego’s meet ) are not dealt with then they accumulate, fester or build resentment and it’s these things that ultimately cause the collapse of a relationship; as does taking someone for granted.

Don’t get me wrong Andy and I spend a lot of our time laughing and having fun while we get to know each other.. You can be an adult and have a childlike joy too; they are not mutually exclusive.

So I am looking forward to 2014 and continuing to get to know this lovely man in a mindful way, building a true friendship and partnership of equals.

Maybe it soon won’t be “early days” any more.  😉

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 As ever I welcome your thoughts.

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Saturday girl signing off.

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Learning about my Camera – Not before time !!

Saturday 1407  – 10.08.2013.

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cricket ball lying in the long grass

Last week I wrote about the surgery I’d had done to my nose and the reaction to how I looked afterwards.. not my finest portrait! – you can see that post here  I had hoped to have my full faculties back this week but alas the recovery is a long slow process it seems and sleep is difficult when you can’t breathe through your nose so I feel tired a lot of the time. I just hope it will be worth it.

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Anyway this Saturday there was a Freshers Day called “Know Your Camera, A Workshop” which was run by Cambridge Camera Club .  It was open to members and to those on the waiting list.

I’ve been on the waiting list for getting close to 18 months now and I’d arranged to attend this day some time ago and definitely didn’t want to miss it.  The club is a brilliant one with about 150 members and the standard is very high indeed hence the waiting list.  People just dont leave !!  If you click on their name above it will bring you through to their website. Well worth a look. 

The day was great. Very much back to basics but as I have never had any tuition it was really very valuable. I have known for a long time that technically I’m not great with my camera, my ability to compose a photograph is okay I know, but my technical ability leaves much to be desired.

There seems to me, confirmed by this workshop, that there is a lot of maths involved, anathema to me !  I didn’t fail my maths O level for nothing ya know!

There were about 22 newbies and 11 or so experienced photographers from the club;  on hand for workshops and advice.

I was hugely impressed and thankful to all those who gave their time and answered our sometimes rather naive questions. A whole bunch of lovely people and I learnt a great deal from them.

Looking forward to getting to the top of that waiting list because I want to play with the big boys 😉

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To make a good day even better the venue was in a village hall next to a cricket ground so I got to watch a bit of this quintessentially English game for 1/2 hr before I felt too tired and knew I needed to get home to rest. For rest read sleep which I did for the rest of the evening !  I know I probably shouldn’t have gone but I’m glad I did –

( I am writing this on Sunday morning after another bad night 😦  )

I lived out of the country for 25 years, in the Republic of Ireland, and since my return one of the things I love about being home is seeing cricket being played on a village green.. the sound of leather on willow is wonderful. 

Needless to say I just had to take a few photos. I have always admired the concentration of sportsmen/women so I thought I’d show you some of that.

bowler giving his all

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Saturday girl signing off ’til next week. I hope you have a good one.

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